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Separate an observation from an interpretation

Describe what you directly noticed before writing what you think it means.

Try this

  1. Make two short columns: what you noticed and what you think it might mean.
  2. Choose one uncertainty to ask about. Remove motive claims from the opening unless the person has actually stated that motive and it remains relevant.

A worked example

“We changed the plan twice. I don’t know whether the original time still works.”

An invented example to adapt, not a real exchange or a script you have to follow.

Before you leave it here

Ask about the uncertainty rather than presenting your interpretation as an established fact.

This is a voluntary planning exercise. Keep your notes private, adapt the language, and leave any question unanswered. It does not require Ourling or a purchase.

Ourling’s library uses AI-assisted original writing. These are practical exercises, not clinical advice or promises about relationship outcomes. Suggest a correction or a missing situation.