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Separate energy from affection

Describe your available attention without treating low energy as a statement about the relationship.

Try this

  1. Name your present capacity with a concrete limit, such as a brief hello or quiet company.
  2. State affection separately only if you want to express it. Avoid asking the other person to infer one from how much conversation you can manage.

A worked example

“I’m glad to see you. I have very little talking energy left.”

An invented example to adapt, not a real exchange or a script you have to follow.

Before you leave it here

Choose a quiet alternative together, such as sitting nearby, rather than testing whether the reassurance was sincere.

This is a voluntary planning exercise. Keep your notes private, adapt the language, and leave any question unanswered. It does not require Ourling or a purchase.

Ourling’s library uses AI-assisted original writing. These are practical exercises, not clinical advice or promises about relationship outcomes. Suggest a correction or a missing situation.