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Check in with a choice to pass

Include a clear pass option before asking a personal question.

Try this

  1. Say the pass option aloud before the question rather than adding it after hesitation.
  2. If someone passes, move on without requesting a reason. You can still have ordinary company without replacing the skipped question.

A worked example

“One good thing from today, or pass if you’d rather.”

An invented example to adapt, not a real exchange or a script you have to follow.

Before you leave it here

A pass ends the question. Do not immediately substitute a more probing version.

This is a voluntary planning exercise. Keep your notes private, adapt the language, and leave any question unanswered. It does not require Ourling or a purchase.

Ourling’s library uses AI-assisted original writing. These are practical exercises, not clinical advice or promises about relationship outcomes. Suggest a correction or a missing situation.