Review an old boundary without pressure

Ask whether an arrangement still fits without assuming time has made it expire.

Try this

Ask about the specific arrangement without proposing that enough time has passed to cancel it.
Offer room to keep, strengthen or change the boundary. Wait for an explicit new agreement before changing your own access or behavior.

A worked example

“Does the rule about checking before visits still work for you?”

An invented example to adapt, not a real exchange or a script you have to follow.

Before you leave it here

Keep the existing boundary until the person explicitly chooses a change.

This is a voluntary planning exercise. Keep your notes private, adapt the language, and leave any question unanswered. It does not require Ourling or a purchase.

Ourling’s library uses AI-assisted original writing. These are practical exercises, not clinical advice or promises about relationship outcomes. Suggest a correction or a missing situation.