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Make a gratitude list for your own attention

Use a private list to notice concrete moments without creating a scorecard of another person’s performance.

Try this

  1. Write three observed actions or shared experiences, each tied to a particular occasion.
  2. Leave out rankings, debts and conclusions about who contributes more. Decide separately whether you want to share any one item.

A worked example

“The window seat on the train; the extra cup of tea; the question about whether I wanted company.”

An invented example to adapt, not a real exchange or a script you have to follow.

Before you leave it here

The list is not a duty to feel grateful or a reason to ignore problems. Stop if it becomes a record you use to argue that someone owes you something.

This is a voluntary planning exercise. Keep your notes private, adapt the language, and leave any question unanswered. It does not require Ourling or a purchase.

Ourling’s library uses AI-assisted original writing. These are practical exercises, not clinical advice or promises about relationship outcomes. Suggest a correction or a missing situation.